As adults, we understand the nuanced differences between a surprise, a secret, and something that is private. But for kids, these concepts can blur and overlap—and unfortunately, that is a fact child predators take advantage of. That’s why it’s important to help define what each concept is and when it’s okay—or not okay—for them to keep certain information to themselves.
Surprises
This is the fun one! A surprise is something that should be fun, happy, and temporary. That might mean surprising Mom with a homemade cake for her birthday or surprising their grandparents with the news that a baby sibling is on its way. It’s a type of secret, but it’s a good secret, because it’s not one that needs to stay secretive forever and it’s intended to create happiness once revealed
When you’re letting a child in on a surprise, make sure to reiterate that the reason it’s okay to keep this good secret is because they only have to keep quiet about it for a little while and it’s eventually going to make someone they love excited or delighted.
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